If you want to effectively serve your players, then ask them the following four questions in individual meetings, probably best done at the beginning of your season:
1. What would it take for you to play at a higher level?
2. What would you like me to do to help you?
3. Are you feeling fulfilled in this program?
4. Is there some way that the coaching staff could be more helpful?
These kinds of questions will help your athletes get focused on raising the bar and going for it. They will also powerfully communicate that you as a coach are interested in their well being and growth. Be sure to listen to their answers with respect. Discuss their responses and the issues that they bring up with your staff to get their input on how to best address the athlete’s needs in each case.