Coach: My second concern is that my son is still a little shy compared to most boys his age.
Karl: Research has found that it is dangerous ‘to compare’ anyone to anyone else. There will always be someone smarter or dumber, faster or slower, taller or shorter, etc. Allow him to be himself and be the best himself that he can be – After all he is the best five-going-on six year old son that you have at this time – isn’t he?
Coach: In group activities he’s not very aggressive.
Karl: Are there standards of aggressiveness that a typical five/six year old Should have? If there are, I am not aware of them! Could it be possible that he does not know (yet) or is learning (still) ‘how to’ participate in these group activity? Could it be possible that he is still learning ‘how to’ socialize and is focusing on making friend rather than be good at the activity? Could it be possible that he is five years old going on six and he will become aggressive in due time?
Coach: This may stem from him spending 13 weeks in a cast a year and half ago because he broke his tibia slipping on a book while running around. I’m not sure if he should learn in an environment where he’s not really ready to get in there and mix it up.
Karl: Truthfully, I was tentative in getting back into the mix after breaking a bone, myself. But, once the action got started the fears seemed to dissipate because I wanted to play. Does your son want to play? Have you asked him if he wants to play? Have you listened to his response? Have you allowed him to give you his answer?
Coach: Perhaps it might be better to hold him back for a year or two as he builds his strength.
Karl: Perhaps??? But then again when will he be strong enough? Who will decide that he is strong enough? How will you (both) decide he is strong enough? What criteria will you use to tell you he is strong enough?